Parenting

What makes a successful parent? I guess it is someone who can bring up a child who is able to achieve his independence sooner. A parent who can bring up an independent child is a good parent. I guess I have failed miserably in this. My kid is full of fears and insecurities and extremely clingy to me and he is nine. Imagine the stress I feel with his behaviour.

Why is he like this? Am I being over protective? DId I do too many things for him?
Did I make too many decisions for him? Did I control him too much? What did I do wrong ? Why is he behaving like this?

I am extremely tired. Totally exhausted. No words to describe how I feel. Really helpless.