The Surrendered Wife

I am going to be the surrendered wife from now on. I am going to leave him alone when he is in one of those moods instead of confronting him and having an argument as a result. It is better for me to give him space than to talk to him and convince him of anything which will not get through to his brain when he is in one of those moods.

So, to prevent any unnecessary conflicts and needless quarrels, it is BETTER to give him the space during these times. I am not his therapist nor his mother so I am not responsible to deal with his issues. Unless he asks me for assistance, I will just leave him alone. Leave him to deal with his own issues.

Scolding and nagging do not motivate so no point being a pain when he will definitely not listen. So , dun waste time and re-channel my energy into something more positive.

Quarrels are just to convince the other party to our thinking...so when we dun try to convince, there will be no quarrels. Accept the situation rather than aiming to change it when I know very well that it cannot be changed.

So why create unnecessary touble for myself. Might as well put my energy into taking good care of myself and making myself happier. Avoid situations that will trigger off all the unpleasantness and arguments.

I am the surrendered wife....which is not a bad thing but a necessary part to my survival here. Better not to be in situations that will be triggers. :)

I am surrendered but at peace.....and happy......:)