DO these this week

My mood: stressed and irritable.

Level of relaxation= Tense and anxious all the time.

Too many things on my mind.

My level of tolerance=Zero

This is my current situation now. I am up to here with his whinning. It is such a disturbing habit to me. I dun wanna tolerate it anymore. My goal is to stop his bad habit and reinforce a more positive behaviour from him.

But I learn one thing...what u focus on expands....I guess I have to learn not to think and put my attention on this problem too much so as not to make it bigger than it is.


I need to do this this week:
1. Put down the ground rules and follow through.
2.Do not tolerate bad bahaviour. Dun give attention to any bad behaviour so as not to encourage it.
3. Need him to know that there is a consequence with every action.
4. DO not let him have his way no matter how much he whines to get his way. Be firm.
5. No nattering.
6. Do not give him too much attention or praise. Praise only his good behaviour and actions.

I need to do these for myself: (although it is hard)
1. No matter what...be calm.....dun aggravate the situation.
2.Do not magnify matters.
3. Learn to let go and let it be.
4.Do not be overly anxious about my kid. Trust him to make a good choice and remind him when he hasn't. DUn remind him ALL the time.
5. Acknowledge and praise the good sounds he makes.....his nice voice, his nice smile, and his cheery behaviour. DUn focus on his whinning and crying.
6. Expect good behaviour from him.

Above all, try to relax...stay calm and LAUGH. LAughing releases negative emotions.

Hope this works.....I am really so stressed out. SIghzzzzzzz